At a time when it seems like families are being torn apart, it’s important to get closer to your teenager. How on earth do you do that when they’re changing every day? The following ideas and tips may be just what you need to get closer to your teen and realize that they really are wonderful.
As pre-teens reach their teenage years, you may feel like you’re revisiting their toddler years. They try to run from you and assert their independence; however, now they’re not merely seeking independence but also learning about who they are and what they have to contribute to the world. Even though they run away, the will still come back - although it may not be permanent. That’s why it’s so important to get closer to your teen now while you still have time.
Regardless of how busy you are, make time to spend with your teenager. This could mean taking off to the mall for a day of shopping, attending their extracurricular activities, or inviting their friends over for a day of movies and fun. You may also want to plan family activities that everyone in the family will enjoy. This could include miniature golf, going on a hike, or even ice skating. Pick an activity, or activities, that everyone can participate in and have a great time.
Doing chores together can also be a means to get closer to your teen. You may not think so, but standing at a sink full of dirty dishes and soapy water can actually be one of the best places to talk. You don’t have to concentrate too hard on the task at hand, but it can allow you to talk about things in a non-threatening way.
Cooking is another way to grow closer to your teenager while at the same time teaching them how to cook. You can show them how to plan a meal, cook it, and then serve it. This task may not seem very enjoyable, but it really can be a way to have fun with children and teenagers alike. You may even want to go so far as to help them go shopping for all the ingredients they need for the meal, but that’s entirely up to you.
Take time to laugh with your teen. Try to stay playful with them, much like you did when they were children. If nothing else, you can make an attempt and possibly get a smile out of them.
Be sure they know that you love them. They may balk at you trying to hug or kiss them on the cheek but they need your touch as much now as they did when they were smaller. It’s true, they might not reciprocate, but it’s important to convey your love to them in some tangible way. When you say “I love you” they may respond “Oh, Mom.” You’ll probably want to say it anyhow.
You can use chores like cooking or washing dishes to help you get closer to your teenager. Let your guard down and be transparent about some of the struggles you had as a teen. They may be more willing to talk realizing that you do understand what they’re going through. Then learn to listen to what your teen has to say rather than doing all the talking. Who knows, you may get closer to them and be on really good terms when they leave home and you can know you helped to raise this wonderful person.
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